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THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.1
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.2
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.3
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.4
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.5
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.6
FOOTNOTES
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.1
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.2
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.3
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.4
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.5
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.6
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.7
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.8
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.9
MARRIAGE-10.1
MARRIAGE-10.2
MARRIAGE-10.3
MARRIAGE-10.4
MARRIAGE-10.5
MARRIAGE-10.6
MARRIAGE-10.7
MARRIAGE-10.8
MARRIAGE-10.9
MARRIAGE-10.10
MARRIAGE-10.11
MARRIAGE-10.12
FOOTNOTES
THE ART OF LOVE-11.1
THE ART OF LOVE-11.2
THE ART OF LOVE-11.3
THE ART OF LOVE-11.4
THE ART OF LOVE-11.5
THE ART OF LOVE-11.6
THE ART OF LOVE-11.7
THE ART OF LOVE-11.8
THE ART OF LOVE-11.9
THE ART OF LOVE-11.10
THE ART OF LOVE-11.11
FOOTNOTES
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.1
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.2
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.3
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.4
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.5
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.6
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.7
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.8
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.9
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relationships, of the tendency of the monogamic to overpass its 

self-imposed bounds, is at best a sad necessity, and a lamentable fall 

from a high ideal. That, however, is the reverse of the truth. The great 

evil of monogamy, and its most seriously weak point, is its tendency to 

self-concentration at the expense of the outer world. The devil always 

comes to a man in the shape of his wife and children, said Hinton. The 

family is a great social influence in so far as it is the best instrument 

for creating children who will make the future citizens; but in a certain 

sense the family is an anti-social influence, for it tends to absorb 

unduly the energy that is needed for the invigoration of society. It is 

possible, indeed, that that fact led to the modification of the monogamic 

system in early developing periods of human history, when social expansion 

and cohesion were the primary necessities. The family too often tends to 

resemble, as someone has said, the secluded collection of grubs sometimes 

revealed in their narrow home when we casually raise a flat stone in our 

gardens. Great as are the problems of love, and great as should be our 

attention to them, it must always be remembered that love is not a little 

circle that is complete in itself. It is the nature of love to irradiate. 

Just as family life exists mainly for the social end of breeding the 

future race, so family love has its social ends in the extension of 

sympathy and affection to those outside it, and even in ends that go 

beyond love altogether.[417] 

 

The question is debated from time to time as to how far it is possible for 

men and women to have intimate friendships with each other outside the 

erotic sphere.[418] There can be no doubt whatever that it is perfectly 

possible for a man and a woman to experience for each other a friendship 

which never intrudes into the sexual sphere. As a rule, however, this only 

happens under special conditions, and those are generally conditions which 

exclude the closest and most intimate friendship. If, as we have seen, 

love may be defined as a synthesis of lust and friendship, friendship 

inevitably enters into the erotic sphere. Just as sexual emotion tends to 

merge into friendship, so friendship between persons of opposite sex, if 

young, healthy, and attractive, tends to involve sexual emotion. The two 

feelings are too closely allied for an artificial barrier to be 

permanently placed between them without protest. Men who offer a woman 

friendship usually find that it is not received with much satisfaction 

except as the first installment of a warmer emotion, and women who offer 

friendship to a man usually find that he responds with an offer of love; 

very often the "friendship" is from the first simply love or flirtation 

masquerading under another name. 

 

"In the long run," a woman writes (in a letter published in 

_Geschlecht und Gesellschaft_, Bd. i, Heft 7), "the senses become 

discontented at their complete exclusion. And I believe that a 

man can only come into the closest mutual association with a 

woman by whom, consciously or unconsciously, he is physically 

attracted. He cannot enter into the closest psychic intercourse 

with a woman with whom he could not imagine himself in physical 

intercourse. His prevailing wish is for the possession of a 

woman, of the whole woman, her soul as well as her body. And a 

woman also cannot imagine an intimate relation to a man in which 

the heart and the body, as well as the mind, are not involved. 

(Naturally I am thinking of people with sound nerves and healthy 

blood.) Can a woman carry on a Platonic relation with a man from 


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