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THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.1
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.2
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.3
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.4
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.5
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.6
FOOTNOTES
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.1
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.2
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.3
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.4
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.5
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.6
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.7
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.8
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.9
MARRIAGE-10.1
MARRIAGE-10.2
MARRIAGE-10.3
MARRIAGE-10.4
MARRIAGE-10.5
MARRIAGE-10.6
MARRIAGE-10.7
MARRIAGE-10.8
MARRIAGE-10.9
MARRIAGE-10.10
MARRIAGE-10.11
MARRIAGE-10.12
FOOTNOTES
THE ART OF LOVE-11.1
THE ART OF LOVE-11.2
THE ART OF LOVE-11.3
THE ART OF LOVE-11.4
THE ART OF LOVE-11.5
THE ART OF LOVE-11.6
THE ART OF LOVE-11.7
THE ART OF LOVE-11.8
THE ART OF LOVE-11.9
THE ART OF LOVE-11.10
THE ART OF LOVE-11.11
FOOTNOTES
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.1
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.2
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.3
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.4
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.5
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.6
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.7
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.8
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.9
FOOTNOTES
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not a mere physical act to be executed by force of muscles, may help to 

explain why it is that in so many parts of the world defloration is not 

immediately effected on marriage.[404] No doubt religious or magic reasons 

may also intervene here, but, as so often happens, they harmonize with the 

biological process. This is the case even among uncivilized peoples who 

marry early. The need for delay and considerate skill is far greater when, 

as among ourselves, a woman's marriage is delayed long past the 

establishment of puberty to a period when it is more difficult to break 

down the psychic and perhaps even physical barriers of personality. 

 

It has to be added that the art of love in the act of courtship is not 

confined to the preliminaries to the single act of coitus. In a sense the 

life of love is a continuous courtship with a constant progression. The 

establishment of physical intercourse is but the beginning of it. This is 

especially true of women. "The consummation of love," says Senancour,[405] 

"which is often the end of love with man is only the beginning of love 

with woman, a test of trust, a gage of future pleasure, a sort of 

engagement for an intimacy to come." "A woman's soul and body," says 

another writer,[406] "are not given at one stroke at a given moment; but 

only slowly, little by little, through many stages, are both delivered to 

the beloved. Instead of abandoning the young woman to the bridegroom on 

the wedding night, as an entrapped mouse is flung to the cat to be 

devoured, it would be better to let the young bridal couple live side by 

side, like two friends and comrades, until they gradually learn how to 

develop and use their sexual consciousness." The conventional wedding is 

out of place as a preliminary to the consummation of marriage, if only on 

the ground that it is impossible to say at what stage in the endless 

process of courtship it ought to take place. 

 

A woman, unlike a man, is prepared by Nature, to play a skilful part in 

the art of love. The man's part in courtship, which is that of the male 

throughout the zooelogical series, may be difficult and hazardous, but it 

is in a straight line, fairly simple and direct. The woman's part, having 

to follow at the same moment two quite different impulses, is necessarily 

always in a zigzag or a curve. That is to say that at every erotic moment 

her action is the resultant of the combined force of her desire (conscious 

or unconscious) and her modesty. She must sail through a tortuous channel 

with Scylla on the one side and Charybdis on the other, and to avoid 

either danger too anxiously may mean risking shipwreck on the other side. 

She must be impenetrable to all the world, but it must be an 

impenetrability not too obscure for the divination of the right man. Her 

speech must be honest, but yet on no account tell everything; her actions 

must be the outcome of her impulses, and on that very account be capable 

of two interpretations. It is only in the last resort of complete intimacy 

that she can become the perfect woman, 

 

"Whose speech Truth knows not from her thought, 

Nor Love her body from her soul." 

 

For many a woman the conditions for that final erotic avatar--"that 

splendid shamelessness which," as Rafford Pyke says, "is the finest thing 

in perfect love"--never present themselves at all. She is compelled to be 

to the end of her erotic life, what she must always be at the beginning, a 

complex and duplex personality, naturally artful. Therewith she is better 

prepared than man to play her part in the art of love. 

 

The man's part in the art of love is, however, by no means easy. That is 


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