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THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.1
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.2
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.3
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.4
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.5
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.6
FOOTNOTES
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.1
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.2
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.3
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.4
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.5
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.6
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.7
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.8
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.9
MARRIAGE-10.1
MARRIAGE-10.2
MARRIAGE-10.3
MARRIAGE-10.4
MARRIAGE-10.5
MARRIAGE-10.6
MARRIAGE-10.7
MARRIAGE-10.8
MARRIAGE-10.9
MARRIAGE-10.10
MARRIAGE-10.11
MARRIAGE-10.12
FOOTNOTES
THE ART OF LOVE-11.1
THE ART OF LOVE-11.2
THE ART OF LOVE-11.3
THE ART OF LOVE-11.4
THE ART OF LOVE-11.5
THE ART OF LOVE-11.6
THE ART OF LOVE-11.7
THE ART OF LOVE-11.8
THE ART OF LOVE-11.9
THE ART OF LOVE-11.10
THE ART OF LOVE-11.11
FOOTNOTES
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.1
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.2
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.3
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.4
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.5
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.6
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.7
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.8
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.9
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she throws small pebbles at the young man; if he throws them back 

the matter is concluded (Carl Lumholtz, _Scribner's Magazine_, 

Sept., 1894, p. 299). In many parts of the world it is the woman 

who chooses her husband (see, e.g., M.A. Potter, _Sohrab and 

Rustem_, pp. 169 et seq.), and she very frequently adopts a 

symbolical method of proposal. Except when the commercial element 

predominates in marriage, a similar method is frequently adopted 

by men also in making proposals of marriage. 

 

It is not only at the beginning of courtship that the act of love has 

little room for formal declarations, for the demands and the avowals that 

can be clearly defined in speech. The same rule holds even in the most 

intimate relationships of old lovers, throughout the married life. The 

permanent element in modesty, which survives every sexual initiation to 

become intertwined with all the exquisite impudicities of love, combines 

with a true erotic instinct to rebel against formal demands, against 

verbal affirmations or denials. Love's requests cannot be made in words, 

nor truthfully answered in words: a fine divination is still needed as 

long as love lasts. 

 

The fact that the needs of love cannot be expressed but must be 

divined has long been recognized by those who have written of the 

art of love, alike by writers within and without the European 

Christian traditions. Thus Zacchia, in his great medico-legal 

treatise, points out that a husband must be attentive to the 

signs of sexual desire in his wife. "Women," he says, "when 

sexual desire arises within them are accustomed to ask their 

husbands questions on matters of love; they flatter and caress 

them; they allow some part of their body to be uncovered as if by 

accident; their breasts appear to swell; they show unusual 

alacrity; they blush; their eyes are bright; and if they 

experience unusual ardor they stammer, talk beside the mark, and 

are scarcely mistress of themselves. At the same time their 

private parts become hot and swell. All these signs should 

convince a husband, however inattentive he may be, that his wife 

craves for satisfaction" (_Zacchiae Quaestionum Medico-legalium 

Opus_, lib. vii, tit. iii, quaest. I; vol. ii, p. 624 in ed. of 

1688). 

 

The old Hindu erotic writers attributed great importance alike to 

the man's attentiveness to the woman's erotic needs, and to his 

skill and consideration in all the preliminaries of the sexual 

act. He must do all that he can to procure her pleasure, says 

Vatsyayana. When she is on her bed and perhaps absorbed in 

conversation, he gently unfastens the knot of her lower garment. 

If she protests he closes her mouth with kisses. Some authors, 

Vatsyayana remarks, hold that the lover should begin by sucking 

the nipples of her breasts. When erection occurs he touches her 

with his hands, softly caressing the various parts of her body. 

He should always press those parts of her body towards which she 

turns her eyes. If she is shy, and it is the first time, he will 

place his hands between her thighs which she will instinctively 

press together. If she is young he will put his hands on her 

breasts, and she will no doubt cover them with her own. If she is 

mature he will do all that may seem fitting and agreeable to both 

parties. Then he will take her hair and her chin between his 

fingers and kiss them. If she is very young she will blush and 

close her eyes. By the way in which she receives his caresses he 

will divine what pleases her most in union. The signs of her 


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