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THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.1
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.2
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.3
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.4
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.5
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.6
FOOTNOTES
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.1
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.2
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.3
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.4
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.5
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.6
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.7
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.8
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.9
MARRIAGE-10.1
MARRIAGE-10.2
MARRIAGE-10.3
MARRIAGE-10.4
MARRIAGE-10.5
MARRIAGE-10.6
MARRIAGE-10.7
MARRIAGE-10.8
MARRIAGE-10.9
MARRIAGE-10.10
MARRIAGE-10.11
MARRIAGE-10.12
FOOTNOTES
THE ART OF LOVE-11.1
THE ART OF LOVE-11.2
THE ART OF LOVE-11.3
THE ART OF LOVE-11.4
THE ART OF LOVE-11.5
THE ART OF LOVE-11.6
THE ART OF LOVE-11.7
THE ART OF LOVE-11.8
THE ART OF LOVE-11.9
THE ART OF LOVE-11.10
THE ART OF LOVE-11.11
FOOTNOTES
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.1
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.2
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.3
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.4
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.5
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.6
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.7
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.8
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.9
FOOTNOTES
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so often been necessary to point out in previous volumes of these 

_Studies_--it covers the whole of woman's erotic life, from the earliest 

age when coyness and modesty develop. A woman's love develops much more 

slowly than a man's for a much longer period. There is real psychological 

significance in the fact that a man's desire for a woman tends to arise 

spontaneously, while a woman's desire for a man tends only to be aroused 

gradually, in the measure of her complexly developing relationship to him. 

Hence her sexual emotion is often less abstract, more intimately 

associated with the individual lover in whom it is centred. "The way to my 

senses is through my heart," wrote Mary Wollstonecraft to her lover Imlay, 

"but, forgive me! I think there is sometimes a shorter cut to yours." She 

spoke for the best, if not for the largest part, of her sex. A man often 

reaches the full limit of his physical capacity for love at a single step, 

and it would appear that his psychic limits are often not more difficult 

to reach. This is the solid fact underlying the more hazardous statement, 

so often made, that woman is monogamic and man polygamic. 

 

On the more physical side, Guttceit states that a month after 

marriage not more than two women out of ten have experienced the 

full pleasure of sexual intercourse, and it may not be for six 

months, a year, or even till after the birth of several children, 

that a woman experiences the full enjoyment of the physical 

relationship, and even then only with a man she completely loves, 

so that the conditions of sexual gratification are much more 

complex in women than in men. Similarly, on the psychic side, 

Ellen Key remarks (_Ueber Liebe und Ehe_, p. 111): "It is 

certainly true that a woman desires sexual gratification from a 

man. But while in her this desire not seldom only appears after 

she has begun to love a man enough to give her life for him, a 

man often desires to possess a woman physically before he loves 

her enough to give even his little finger for her. The fact that 

love in a woman mostly goes from the soul to the senses and often 

fails to reach them, and that in a man it mostly goes from the 

senses to the soul and frequently never reaches that goal--this 

is of all the existing differences between men and women that 

which causes most torture to both." It will, of course, be 

apparent to the reader of the fourth volume of these _Studies_ on 

"Sexual Selection in Man" that the method of stating the 

difference which has commended itself to Mary Wollstonecraft, 

Ellen Key, and others, is not strictly correct, and the chastest 

woman, after, for example, taking too hot a bath, may find that 

her heart is not the only path through which her senses may be 

affected. The senses are the only channels to the external world 

which we possess, and love must come through these channels or 

not at all. The difference, however, seems to be a real one, if 

we translate it to mean that, as we have seen reason to believe 

in previous volumes of these _Studies_, there are in women (1) 

preferential sensory paths of sexual stimuli, such as, 

apparently, a predominence of tactile and auditory paths as 

compared with men; (2) a more massive, complex, and delicately 

poised sexual mechanism; and, as a result of this, (3) eventually 

a greater amount of nervous and cerebral sexual irradiation. 

 

It must be remembered, at the same time, that while this 

distinction represents a real tendency in sexual differentiation, 

with an organic and not merely traditional basis, it has about it 


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