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THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.1
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.2
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.3
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.4
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.5
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.6
FOOTNOTES
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.1
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.2
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.3
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.4
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.5
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.6
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.7
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.8
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.9
MARRIAGE-10.1
MARRIAGE-10.2
MARRIAGE-10.3
MARRIAGE-10.4
MARRIAGE-10.5
MARRIAGE-10.6
MARRIAGE-10.7
MARRIAGE-10.8
MARRIAGE-10.9
MARRIAGE-10.10
MARRIAGE-10.11
MARRIAGE-10.12
FOOTNOTES
THE ART OF LOVE-11.1
THE ART OF LOVE-11.2
THE ART OF LOVE-11.3
THE ART OF LOVE-11.4
THE ART OF LOVE-11.5
THE ART OF LOVE-11.6
THE ART OF LOVE-11.7
THE ART OF LOVE-11.8
THE ART OF LOVE-11.9
THE ART OF LOVE-11.10
THE ART OF LOVE-11.11
FOOTNOTES
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.1
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.2
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.3
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.4
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.5
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.6
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.7
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.8
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.9
FOOTNOTES
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the wife,[401] and it has tended to promote adultery and divorce. We might 

have been more surprised had it been otherwise. 

 

The art of love is based on the fundamental natural fact of courtship; and 

courtship is the effort of the male to make himself acceptable to the 

female.[402] "The art of love," said Vatsyayana, one of the greatest of 

authorities, "is the art of pleasing women." "A man must never permit 

himself a pleasure with his wife," said Balzac in his _Physiologie du 

Mariage_, "which he has not the skill first to make her desire." The whole 

art of love is there. Women, naturally and instinctively, seek to make 

themselves desirable to men, even to men whom they are supremely 

indifferent to, and the woman who is in love with a man, by an equally 

natural instinct, seeks to shape herself to the measure which individually 

pleases him. This tendency is not really modified by the fundamental fact 

that in these matters it is only the arts that Nature makes which are 

truly effective. It is finally by what he is that a man arouses a woman's 

deepest emotions of sympathy or of antipathy, and he is often pleasing her 

more by displaying his fitness to play a great part in the world outside 

than by any acquired accomplishments in the arts of courtship. When, 

however, the serious and intimate play of physical love begins, the 

woman's part is, even biologically, on the surface the more passive 

part.[403] She is, on the physical side, inevitably the instrument in 

love; it must be his hand and his bow which evoke the music. 

 

In speaking of the art of love, however, it is impossible to disentangle 

completely the spiritual from the physical. The very attempt to do so is, 

indeed, a fatal mistake. The man who can only perceive the physical side 

of the sexual relationship is, as Hinton was accustomed to say, on a level 

with the man who, in listening to a sonata of Beethoven on the violin, is 

only conscious of the physical fact that a horse's tail is being scraped 

against a sheep's entrails. 


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