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THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.1
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.2
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.3
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.4
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.5
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.6
FOOTNOTES
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.1
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.2
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.3
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.4
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.5
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.6
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.7
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.8
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.9
MARRIAGE-10.1
MARRIAGE-10.2
MARRIAGE-10.3
MARRIAGE-10.4
MARRIAGE-10.5
MARRIAGE-10.6
MARRIAGE-10.7
MARRIAGE-10.8
MARRIAGE-10.9
MARRIAGE-10.10
MARRIAGE-10.11
MARRIAGE-10.12
FOOTNOTES
THE ART OF LOVE-11.1
THE ART OF LOVE-11.2
THE ART OF LOVE-11.3
THE ART OF LOVE-11.4
THE ART OF LOVE-11.5
THE ART OF LOVE-11.6
THE ART OF LOVE-11.7
THE ART OF LOVE-11.8
THE ART OF LOVE-11.9
THE ART OF LOVE-11.10
THE ART OF LOVE-11.11
FOOTNOTES
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.1
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.2
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.3
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.4
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.5
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.6
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.7
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.8
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.9
FOOTNOTES
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Everyone is probably acquainted with many cases of the extreme 

ignorance of women on entering marriage. The following case 

concerning a woman of twenty-seven, who had been asked in 

marriage, is somewhat extreme, but not very exceptional. "She did 

not feel sure of her affection and she asked a woman cousin 

concerning the meaning of love. This cousin lent her Ellis 

Ethelmer's pamphlet, _The Human Flower_. She learnt from this 

that men desired the body of a woman, and this so appalled her 

that she was quite ill for several days. The next time her lover 

attempted a caress she told him that it was 'lust.' Since then 

she has read George Moore's _Sister Teresa_, and the knowledge 

that 'women can be as bad as men' has made her sad." The 

"Histories" contained in the Appendices to previous volumes of 

these _Studies_ reveal numerous instances of the deplorable 

ignorance of young girls concerning the most central facts of the 

sexual life. It is not surprising, under such circumstances, that 

marriage leads to disillusionment or repulsion. 

 

It is commonly said that the duty of initiating the wife into the 

privileges and obligations of marriage properly belongs to the 

husband. Apart, however, altogether from the fact that it is 

unjust to a woman to compel her to bind herself in marriage 

before she has fully realized what marriage means, it must also 

be said that there are many things necessary for women to know 

that it is unreasonable to expect a husband to explain. This is, 

for instance, notably the case as regards the more fatiguing and 

exhausting effects of coitus on a man as compared with a woman. 

The inexperienced bride cannot know beforehand that the 

frequently repeated orgasms which render her vigorous and radiant 

exert a depressing effect on her husband, and his masculine pride 

induces him to attempt to conceal that fact. The bride, in her 

innocence, is unconscious that her pleasure is bought at her 

husband's expense, and that what is not excess to her, may be a 

serious excess to him. The woman who knows (notably, for 

instance, a widow who remarries) is careful to guard her 

husband's health in this respect, by restraining her own ardor, 

for she realizes that a man is not willing to admit that he is 

incapable of satisfying his wife's desires. (G. Hirth has also 

pointed out how important it is that women should know before 

marriage the natural limits of masculine potency, _Wege zur 

Liebe_, p. 571.) 

 

The ignorance of women of all that concerns the art of love, and their 

total lack of preparation for the natural facts of the sexual life, would 

perhaps be of less evil augury for marriage if it were always compensated 

by the knowledge, skill, and considerateness of the husband. But that is 

by no means always the case. Within the ordinary range we find, at all 

events in England, the large group of men whose knowledge of women before 

marriage has been mainly confined to prostitutes, and the important and 

not inconsiderable group of men who have had no intimate intercourse with 

women, their sexual experiences having been confined to masturbation or 

other auto-erotic manifestations, and to flirtation. Certainly the man of 

sensitive and intelligent temperament, whatever his training or lack of 

training, may succeed with patience and consideration in overcoming all 

the difficulties placed in the way of love by the mixture of ignorances 

and prejudices which so often in woman takes the place of an education for 


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