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THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.1
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.2
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.3
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.4
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.5
THE CONQUEST OF THE VENEREAL DISEASES-8.6
FOOTNOTES
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.1
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.2
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.3
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.4
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.5
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.6
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.7
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.8
SEXUAL MORALITY-9.9
MARRIAGE-10.1
MARRIAGE-10.2
MARRIAGE-10.3
MARRIAGE-10.4
MARRIAGE-10.5
MARRIAGE-10.6
MARRIAGE-10.7
MARRIAGE-10.8
MARRIAGE-10.9
MARRIAGE-10.10
MARRIAGE-10.11
MARRIAGE-10.12
FOOTNOTES
THE ART OF LOVE-11.1
THE ART OF LOVE-11.2
THE ART OF LOVE-11.3
THE ART OF LOVE-11.4
THE ART OF LOVE-11.5
THE ART OF LOVE-11.6
THE ART OF LOVE-11.7
THE ART OF LOVE-11.8
THE ART OF LOVE-11.9
THE ART OF LOVE-11.10
THE ART OF LOVE-11.11
FOOTNOTES
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.1
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.2
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.3
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.4
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.5
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.6
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.7
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.8
THE SCIENCE OF PROCREATION-12.9
FOOTNOTES
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touch or contact; and by slight gradations it may pass on to 

caresses, kisses, embraces, and even extend to pressure or 

friction of the sexual parts, sometimes leading to orgasm. Thus, 

Forel mentions, a sensuous woman by the pressure of her garments 

in dancing can produce ejaculation in her partner. Most usually 

the process is that voluptuous contact and revery which, in 

English slang, is called "spooning." From first to last there 

need not be any explicit explanations, proposals, or declarations 

on either side, and neither party is committed to any 

relationship with the other beyond the period devoted to 

flirtage. In one form, however, flirtage consists entirely in the 

excitement of a conversation devoted to erotic and indecorous 

topics. Either the man or the woman may take the active part in 

flirtage, but in a woman more refinement and skill is required to 

play the active part without repelling the man or injuring her 

reputation. Indeed, much the same is true of men also, for women, 

while they often like flirting, usually prefer its more refined 

forms. There are infinite forms of flirtage, and while as a 

preliminary part of courtship, it has its normal place and 

justification, Forel concludes that "as an end in itself, and 

never passing beyond itself, it is a phenomenon of degeneration." 

 

From the French point of view, flirtage and flirtation generally 

have been discussed by Madame Bentzon ("Family Life in America," 

_Forum_, March, 1896) who, however, fails to realize the natural 

basis of flirtation in courtship. She regards it as a sin against 

the law "Thou shalt not play with love," for it ought to have the 

excuse of an irresistible passion, but she thinks it is 

comparatively inoffensive in America (though still a 

deteriorating influence on the women) on account of the 

temperament, education, and habits of the people. It must, 

however, be remembered that play has a proper relationship to all 

vital activities, and that a reasonable criticism of flirtation 

is concerned rather with its normal limitations than with its 

right to exist (see the observations on the natural basis of 

coquetry and the ends it subserves in "The Evolution of Modesty" 

in volume i of these _Studies_). 

 

 

 


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